Welcome to our second week of study as we read 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter, the Bible Study. We all seem to feel that girlhood innocence has disappeared, and thankfully, this week of study is a lesson in how to reclaim that innocence for our daughters and granddaughters. During our study, we looked back at out own timeline of growing up, recalling some important moments. This personal reflection helps us view our daughters perspective on her world. Vicki Courtney does a good job of showing us the fast pace living that our daughters are currently exposed to, where those influences are coming from, and how to establish some limits to keep them in control.
Things You’ll Need to Do: Week Two
- Pray for the other women participating in this study
- Read Week Two (pages 78-74) in workbook
- Download and watch Video Conversation Two (optional due to cost)
- Complete viewer guide on page 37
I especially enjoyed the lesson on looking at your daughters friends, with the emphasis on “weekday friends” versus “weekend friends.” It really helps identify those peers that I’d like to see my daughters spend more time with, and those peers I’d like to eliminate time with. I’ve noticed negative behavior and language in my middle school daughter, and pondered where this comes from. After reading page 64 and listing her friends, I see the influence I’d like to reduce.
The lesson on dating was another segment of study that has offered some guidance and perspective. Vicki refers to the book All You Need to Know About Raising Girls written by Melissa Trevathan and Sissy Goff. I have not read this book, have any of you? In our workbook, Vicki gives some “mom-language” for talking about boys, group dates, and high-school dating.
Quotes from Vicky Courtney
“God wired girls to want to grow up, and culture takes advantage of that desire by enticing them to hurry along the process.”
“Girls who’s friends have poor relationships with their parents are at greatest risk for earlier sexual activity.”
“If the girl your daughter is becoming doesn’t line up with the young lady God created her to be, take a closer look at her peer group.”
“If you have not begun to lay down the groundwork for what is acceptable and what you deem unacceptable, she will get her cues from the culture at large.”
Precious Father, you know the hearts of our daughters and the people they spend time with. Our desire as mothers and grandmothers is to participate in their social world, seeing what they see, hearing what they hear, and educating them of the values of a Christian lifestyle. Keep our attention on our daughters, as we know how badly they need us beside them. May we create time for them, as we listen to their stories, meet their friends and demonstrate a desire to support them as they navigate their social world. Amen.
Scripture Verses for Reclaiming Girlhood (NIV)
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.. (continued) Ecc 3:1-8
So give Your servant an understanding heart to judge Your people to discern between good and evil. 1 Kings 3:9 (NASB)
Bad company corrupts good character. 1 Corinthians 15:33
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs 15:22
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
Group Discussion for the 5 Conversations Bible Study
Vicki reminds us on page 50 that you should be having enough conversations with your daughter that, without a word, she is clear on where you stand.” Think about the conversations you’re having with your own daughters and granddaughters. While they may understand that you are a Christian mom, wife or grandma…do they really KNOW what that means? How to you communicate this to them?
Let’s talk about it…share your thoughts from week two!