5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter | Week 4

Rekindle the Dream

It’s our fourth week of study in 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter, the Bible Study by Vicki Courtney. Last week week we had a conversation about sex, and this week we discuss marriage with our daughters. In the lesson plan, Vicki shared that she will go on a mini-vacation with her daughter, someplace special where they can be alone together to have these talks. With 5 conversations in the study, a simple plan for Moms or Grandmas would be to go someplace special with our daughters, every month or two, and have a single conversation. It could be a date night with our daughter, or a simple walk in the park; what is important is the CONVERSATION, not the location. This Bible study has really shaped my understanding of how I learned about sex, marriage, living together and working moms…and what I would like to do differently with my own two daughters. I hope you’ve had a chance to read this workbook….it really places a new perspective on how we educate our daughters.

Things You’ll Need to Do: Week four

  • Take a minute and pray for your own mother or grandmother, and the lack of resources she had when teaching you about these 5 conversations
  • Read Week Four (pages 107-136) in workbook
  • Download and watch Video Conversation Four (optional due to cost)
  • Complete viewer guide on page 107

This week we learn some important facts about living together before marriage, divorce rates, fertility rates and working Moms. Each page in this week’s conversation is like walking into a battlefield….some of you are going to read it with an open mind, some with a guilty mind, some with a closed mind. It’s important to remember that this study is not about us…its about our daughters, who enter this enticing world with very little information from home, and a vast amount of information from television, media and social networks. Which information do you want your daughter to know…the worldview…or God’s view?

As I said last week….If you don’t complete the workbook and the 5 Steps, then you will not have a plan. And those who do not plan, often fail.

Quotes from Vicky Courtney

“God is the author and creator or marriage.”

“Even Christians buy into the notion that if marriage isn’t lending to our overall happiness, it should be revised accordingly to fit the times. This comes from the incorrect assumption that God’s ultimate goal is for humans to be happy.”

“Divorce is the result of fallen people making poor choices.”

“Most failed marriages can be trced back to mistakes made by both parties and a failure to adhere to God’s standards.”

“Always remember that God can heal any marriage; prayer is an essential part of that process.”

“Women have an excellent understanding of birth control, but they overestimated the age at which fertility begins declining.”

Prayer Requests

After reading our lessons this week, we pray Father God that we have an enlightened and renewed understanding or marriage, divorce, living together and motherhood- so we may share these ideas with our daughters and granddaughters. May we pass on this information from a Godly view rather than a view based on our own mistakes or a world view. We seek peace and truth in Your name…and we share this with those we love in Jesus name. Amen.

Scripture Verses for Rekindling the Dream (NIV)

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. Genesis 2:18

But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2

“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. Matt 19:7-8

“I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself  with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith. Malachi 2:16

Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him. Psalm 127:3

Then Esau looked up and saw the women and children. “Who are these with you?” he asked. Jacob answered, “They are the children God has graciously given your servant.”  Genesis 33:5

In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps. Proverbs 16:9

Group Discussion for the 5 Conversations Bible Study

On page 130, Vicki asks you to create a list of 10 things you enjoy being a Mom, and to share them with your daughter. Have you created the list, and when do you intend to share it with your daughter or granddaughter?

Author Christine Abraham

Founder and Ministry Director of the Womens Bible Cafe™ since 2009, Christine has led 60+ online Bible Studies for women. She completed a Graduate of Biblical Studies from Liberty University. She's an inspired writer, Amazon Top Reviewer and Blogger Follow on Facebook

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Join the discussion 2 Comments

  • Stephanie says:

    I didnt realize really how much I enjoyed being a mom and grandma. This list has brought joy to my heart. I want to share it with after I get done with this study. I still am suprised at how much times have changed since I was a young girl. Lot different.

  • Christine Smith says:

    I found it very easy to create my list of ten things…and also felt love and joy in my heart when I started listing the things that I share with my children. Having the written list has helped me see where I desire to spend most of my time. Before sharing it with my daughters, I’m going to ask them to make a list of 5 things they look forward to when they are a Mom. I’d like to see my “MomWorld” from their viewpoint.

    I enjoyed this weeks lesson on marriage as I see areas for conversation with my daughters. My oldest daughter is ready for these conversations (she’s 11 and in middle school) and so I’m setting aside some special “dates” where we can be alone together for quiet talks. I know she’ll treasure the time together…I’d like to make it meaningful for both of us.

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