This is our last week of the Bible study 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter by Vicki Courtney. As we’ve worked through the book, we’ve looked at Redefining Beauty, Reclaiming Girlhood, Revising the Talk, Rekindling the Dream and today we look at Restoring Virtue. Each of these 5 conversations should be introduced to our daughters, and then ongoing discussions with them.
Things You’ll Need to Do: Week Five
- Select your favorite scripture verses on page 163, write into a prayer for your daughter, and carry it with you
- Read Week Five (pages 137-174) in workbook
- Download and watch Video Conversation Five (optional due to cost)
- Download and watch Video Conversation Six (optional due to cost)
- Complete viewer guides on page 137 and 165
- Copy the Plan of Salvation on page 164 and make sure you share it with your daughter
This week on page 153, Vicki discusses some things we can do to encourage our daughters to serve the less fortunate. Some of the activities I’ve shared with my daughters include:
- When our church collected winter coats last year, my youngest daughter gave up her metallic gold Hannah Montana jacket-never worn. As we prepared to leave my daughter was a bit behind the rest of us so I went to locate her. She was writing a note and putting it inside the pocket of her coat:
“Dear little girl, this is my favorite Hannah Montana jacket. I’ve never even worn it yet. It still has the price tag on it. It’s a $50 coat. I wanted you to have it to stay warm and I’m 7 years old.”
- On another day, my kids were having as sleepover with a few friends. All the girls decided to write a letter to Sarah (Compassion child) and we took a photo of them sitting on the hot pink/black zebra stripe bed! Each girl told her name, how old she was, and what she was learning in school. All the kids signed the letter, and we mailed it to Africa.
- When my older daughter was 9 years old, she went with me to volunteer at a home for teenagers with Down syndrome. It was initially difficult for her, then she started playing basketball and doing art with the kids and learned a little about their challenges. Her friend’s little sister had just died from Down syndrome a month earlier, and this was our way of supporting those families living with the illness.
- When she was 11 years old, we attended a baby shower for the local pregnancy center, and listened to the speaker talk about the babies they’ve saved, the courage these women have, and how the church supports women who decide to keep their babies. We brought baby gifts to the party, and my daughter was in awe of the amount of giving and love these women received from the church community.
- Each Christmas we get a shoebox for Operation Christmas Child, and I allow my kids to fill the box with items for giving.
When you look at this list, look for opportunities that you can share with your own daughter. Most of the opportunities we’ve shared have been through our church or through our school community.
Quotes from Vicki Courtney
“Our youth is so desensitized to inappropriate behaviors glamorized by those in the spotlight that they believe bad has become the new good.”
“We need to be careful that we don’t hinder our daughters from taking a closer look at their lives to examine whether they are saved.”
“The goal is not to pressure mooms to raise girls who are “good” but rather to raise girls who are God’s.”
Father, I pray for the salvation of my daughter. Grant me the opportunities to discuss with her the fruit in her life, the temptation to sin and the consequences- based upon Your commands. I ask that she builds her life on a foundation of faith, trust and hope. I pray that You will bring new and better friendships into her life, and establish stronger friendships with Christians who walk in faith. May she be saved from sin, accept salvation through Christ, receive the gift of Grace and confess her loyalty to the King of all Kings. In Jesus name, amen.
Scripture Verses for Restoring Virtue (NIV)
Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test? 2 Cor 13:5
Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them. Matt 7:20
In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by what I do. You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder. James 2:17-19
Group Discussion for the 5 Conversations Bible Study
What are some of the things you can do with your daughter to encourage her to help the needy?