Welcome back to the Womens Bible Cafe as we continue our study of Loving Well by Beth Moore. We’ve now watched the first two video sessions of this study, and we have two more to complete. We’ve enjoyed reading your comments and growing together as a group.
This post is written by Raye Holmes
This past week has been one of the most trying weeks I have had in a long time! However it has been one that I needed to set my pride aside and allow God to speak to my heart on some issues that have been rooted down in me and to see there are some relationships that I have no business being in. I love how God works! He used a Bible study called Loving Well to give me the wake up call I needed!
For years I have based God’s love for me on how ‘other’ people love me. From my parents, to my spouse, friends, church family, etc. I saw so clearly this week how wrong that is, how wrong I was!
God loves us all for who we are – the person that He created! No matter what we do, say, don’t do, etc. God Loves US! Many times I would question God’s love for me over my 47 years. When I was 17, raped and left pregnant, and my family and church family abandoned me. When my ‘christian’ husband of 22 years, who I was in the ministry with, came home from church the Sunday before Thanksgiving in 2005 and informed me he could not stand the ground I walked on, among other choice words. When church family abandoned me in this time and I felt all alone. The time in 2007 just when mine and my Mom’s relationship was restored – she got diagnosed with cancer and died in Feb. 08. I took it as God abandoning me once again. Then two years later almost to the date my Mom passed away and after my relationship with my Dad got restored – Dad passed in Feb. 10. I took it as God abandoning me once again! I never saw that the most wonderful man that God put in my life a month before my Mom died as a gift from God – because He loves me until this past week! How sad is that?!
Another area I felt God abandoning me in is in friendships. One in particular. No matter what I do for this person, it never is enough. No matter how difficult it is to love her, I would just keep on keeping on. The whole time struggling on a daily basis; causing her and I both pain.
After this week’s Bible Study I must say, I had this all wrong! God never leaves or forsakes me. God loves me for me – after all He created me! God is for me, He is not against me! Nothing I could ever do or say, nothing! NOTHING can separate me from God’s Love! And God showed me this week that the above incidents in my life; left some ROOTS that was not from Him and it was time to put my pride aside and allow Him to get those roots out of my heart!
It was painful, I am not going to say it was easy. I bawled like I had a death in my life! However, now I am so free from that bondage!
The relationship with the person I described before, I will say without going into much detail, but video 3 talks very plainly about that! Once again I had to set aside my pride and allow God to teach me how to handle this relationship. Sometimes we just need God to show us their hearts or sometimes we just need to obey God and back off from the relationship until our hearts our ‘healthy’. Only you and God would know the answer to that…
God is so wonderful! His grace and mercy is such an outstanding blessing. I was reminded today of something God spoke to me years ago, that He has set me as lady that represents a “Trophy of His Grace”! And that I need to start walking and living my life as such! God also reminded me that through those hurtful times in my life it was HIM that was always by myside, rather it was just His presence I felt, Him speaking to me through His Word or a Worship Song. God has always been with me. It was the Holy Spirit coming down and comforting me like no other can do! I once had a blog called just that, ” Trophy of His Grace” and I am so looking forward to going back to it and writing and showing off my trophy case of God’s Love for Me!
When you find yourself not being able to ‘Love Well’ – check yourself, check your heart, set aside your pride and think back to those times when God loved you when no one else did and be thankful for that love! I pray you never find yourself taking that love for granted, like I found myself!
This may be an unusual write up and not one that many may want to read. Since I am such a real person and usually do not hold too many things back that is in my heart, I had to write it. My prayer is that each of you doing this Bible Study will allow God to reach down deep in your heart and allow Him to pull the roots out that have been hindering you from ‘Loving Well’.
Have a great weeks ladies and may we all know God’s love like never before!
Homework For This Week
- Watch the third video session for Loving Well by Beth Moore
- If you are using the Loving Well Journal, complete week three
- Register for the new James, Mercy Triumphs online bible study
Group Discussion- Please post a comment and answer one or as many questions as you want
- How do you feel about God’s unfailing love for you?
- In what ways has God shown His perfect love towards you?
- Share a favorite moment from this week’s lesson.