The Bible Cafe is open again as we discuss week five of Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. I’m looking forward to the group discussion for this lesson because your season of life will impact how you answer the questions on priorities. Single women, married women, college students, single moms, grandmas and empty nesters all have different priorities. Women who are caretakers for their spouses or special needs children have different priorities. College and single women exploring the dating field have different priorities. One priority we all have in common is our need for time with God.
This week we examined our hearts and saw how our schedule and daily activities reflect our values. We had a chance to re-examine them and see if they’re in alignment with scripture. Pray and ask God what His will is for your life. If you are home caring for someone in need, know that this is a season God has placed into your schedule. If you are attending college and challenged by the exams and secular environment, know that this is a season God has placed into your schedule. If you are working outside the home to provide for your family, know that this is a season God has placed into your schedule. Seasons can and will change. Through these seasons we discover Christ and who we are in Him.
No matter the season, it is imperative that you place God first in your life. Place God first before your spouse, children, education, career and ministry or missionary work. Place God first in your daily schedule and include him in your “to-do” list as you schedule bible study and prayer time with Him. Believe it or not…each and everyday Jesus is sitting beside you waiting for your attention. He waits for you to talk to him as a friend, spouse, mentor, teacher and more. He sees you in your daily schedule…my question is…do you see Him?
If you read Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World by Joanna Weaver then you learned that Martha is the woman who takes on every role and task, and misses the opportunity to sit at the feet of Jesus. “She is the original Martha Stewart, the New Testament’s Proverbs 31 woman, and Israel’s answer to Betty Crocker,” writes Weaver. Her busyness keeps her from her intimacy with God. Mary prioritized her time and knew when to sit and be still. “ The story of Mary and Martha was never meant to be a psychological profile or a role play in which we choose the character with whom we most identify. It’s the story of two different responses to one singular occasion. In it, we should not find our personality type, but the kind of heart Christ longs for us to have. A heart centered in him alone.” Joanna Weaver
I enjoyed the lesson this week because it confirmed many decisions I’ve made in my life. For example, after attending a Family Life Conference on Marriage where priorities were examined, my husband and I decided to sell our dream home and downsize. We gave up luxuries and settled for comfort instead. Reading the book Your Money or Your Life by Joe Dominquez helped me understand the value of parenting vs the cost of working. I shifted my priorities and worked from home to supplement my husband’s income, raise my children and make time for ministry. During this time my daughter was diagnosed with special needs and I had the time to be accessible to her and flexible with my schedule. Although I miss the luxurious home, house cleaner, nanny and gardener- I value the time with my children, husband and Jesus even more. When the children complain about how we live now we remind them “we love you more than money.” Once we lived beyond our means and now we are living within the budget God has created for our family. Attending Financial Peace University by Dave Ramsey helps us live within our means.
Adjust your priorities. Make room for God and you’ll have no regrets that you put Him first. Nancy reminds us to “ask God what adjustments He wants you to make in your schedule, so that you can be sure you are glorifying Him and fulfilling His agenda for your life.”
Quotes From Nancy Leigh DeMoss
- Frustration is the by-product of attempting to fulfill responsibilities God does not intend for us to carry.
- The essence of Satan’s deception is that we can live our lives independently of God.
- If I walk in pride I must be prepared for God to resist me and my efforts.
- It is always possible to live according to the Truth if we want to.
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For Next Week
- Pray for the women who are doing this study with you.
- Read Chapter Six in your book and companion guide.
- Look at the list of Key Resources on page 269 for topics addressed in this book
- Check in with your Small Group Leader
Group Discussion- Answer ONE question or as many as you like
- Why do you think women take on more responsibilities than God intends for them to have?
- What do you need to do in order to go to bed each night and say “Today I finished the work that the Lord gave me to do?”
- Why do you think prayer was such a priority for Jesus?
- Share your thoughts about this week’s lesson.
Have a great week…share what you are learning with others as you grow in truth!
God is good…always!