Welcome back to online womens bible study as we discuss week seven of Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. We’re looking at some controversial topics in this bible study and this week we examined biblical truths about having children. Some of you may have skipped over this chapter because you do not have children. I encourage you to go back and read this chapter for three reasons:
- God may place you in a position to minister to someone who has children or is planning on having children
- God may place children in your life who need mentoring, such as nieces and nephews, or children of coworkers and friends
- God may place you in a ministry role where you are working with children
There is no good reason for you to miss reading this chapter! Please remember as Nancy teaches on these controversial issues, she is reflecting her understanding of scripture. You are not required to agree with her, however it would benefit you to search scripture and find your own answers for anything you disagree with.
This week we looked at five lies:
- The lie that children are a burden (and disposable through abortion)
- The lie that children need exposure to culture
- The lie that children must go through a rebellious stage
- The lie that children are believers because of actions at an early age
- The lie that parents are/ or are not responsible for their kids actions
The world views children as disposable burdens even before they are conceived or born. Abortion is an effective tool of Satan to convince women their babies are worthless, just a mass of tiny cells. Our society tolerates sexual promiscuity and if you’re irresponsible with your actions, then throw away your baby. About 1.2 million babies are aborted each year in the United States alone. Many women trust an abortion doctor before they trust God to help them raise the child or plan for adoption, and then live with the shame of their actions. Update: We will be leading an abortion recovery bible study soon…we’re evaluating the books now and creating a safe and secure location for the discussions.
Another lie is exposing children to acceptable norms of culture. Last month I took my children to the Barnes and Noble bookstore and we walked past a large section of books titled “Paranormal Teen Romance.” I remarked to my children that vampire stories where the boy is alone in the bedroom with a teen girl, physically abuses her, and then marries her and has a vampire baby is NOT healthy entertainment. It’s a culture trend with American teens and worries me greatly! A recent search on Amazon revealed 787 books for paranormal teen romance and 163 books for Christian teen romance. Look what Satan is doing to our future…yikes!
Were you amazed when Nancy said it’s a lie to expect rebellion from our children? I can recall a few bible stories about rebellious children, yet Nancy wants us to see the good in our teen children and not anticipate or tolerate the worst in them. As Christian parents it’s imperative that we monitor our children’s activities and maintain open communication with them. By spending time in their activities we’re able to influence them in some of the decisions they make. Many times we discover our children are trying to help their secular friends solve a problem and we need to be the voice of knowledge for them. We mentor our children into adulthood through our own behaviors and words. It’s wrong to assume that our children are believers, as they must discover Christ in their own hearts and develop a relationship with Him. Create a habit of praying for your children. If you’re unsure how or what to pray get a copy of the book The Power of a Praying® Parent or The Power of Praying® for Your Adult Childrenby Stormie Ormartian. You may also like reading Prodigals and Those Who Love Them: Words of Encouragement for Those Who Wait by Ruth Bell Graham.
Finally, Nancy discusses the lie that we’re not responsible or overly responsible for our children. Often I remind myself that my daughters belong to God, and not to me. I’m their caretaker and a spiritual leader as I teach them to live according to scripture and to love Jesus. Ultimately they are responsible for their own actions. I pray constantly that their hearts and minds are centered on God. I saw Carol Kent speak about her personal experience and then read her book When I Lay My Isaac Down: Unshakable Faith in Unthinkable Circumstances as she discusses keeping her faith after her son murdered a man. This book is powerful!
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For Next Week
- Pray for the women who are doing this study with you.
- Read Chapter Eight in your book and companion guide.
- Look at the list of Key Resources on page 269 for topics addressed in this book
- Check in with your Small Group Leader
Group Discussion- Answer ONE question or as many as you like
- How is the world’s view of children different than God’s view?
- If you have children, share why they are a blessing to you.
- What did you like or dislike about chapter seven?
- Share your thoughts about this week’s lesson.
Have a great week…share what you are learning with others as you grow in truth!
God is good…always!