Conversation Peace Online Bible Study | Week 4

conversation peace online bible studyWelcome Back to our Summer Bible Study, Conversation Peace by Mary Kassian.  This week we learned about the battle tactics we often use in our conversations with others.  What a powerful week of study it was for me, as I realized that still struggle with some of those battle tactics that I thought I had surrendered to God.

James 4:1-3 states, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?  You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.  When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” Wow did this verse begin my reality check.  The root of this for me was pride.  Now sometimes pride shows itself by being arrogant, but my reality check showed me that I am insecure in some areas.  God showed me that even when I feel like I am lacking I am still being prideful because in that moment, it is all about me, when I should be relying on God to lead and guide me.  Remember God qualifies the called.  

This really hit me hard.  Can I share something deeper with you? I really struggled doing the blog and questions each week for Conversation Peace.  Now I wanted to do it, but as each week came up, I would always second guess my questions, and my writing.  I had inner strife because I was feeling that I lacked what I saw in other writers.  Feedback became attacks in my mind and I even wanted to stop doing them.  Imagine that.  But God showed me that  I needed His peace that would destroy and bring down barriers. I began to embrace the study and allow it to minister to me and then share what I learned each week.  My conversations with Christine Abraham became more of a partnership, as it had always been, full of positive conversations.  Thank You Lord!

There were many wonderful take-aways from this week’s lesson.  Our lesson ended with our call to servanthood.  This is difficult for us at times because being a true servant of God means we are vulnerable, we have to let our guards down.  We may get hurt by others.  Christ’s sacrifice was the ultimate, His love for us and willingness to obey His Father is one that we can never repay.  But when we model His behaviors we become more loving, more willing to sacrifice our rights for others.  We open up to others and minister and share our experiences with them.  We become willing to do whatever God calls us to do, because we know and trust that He will carry us and He will give us all that we need to accomplish His will.

I pray that you and I together, will be able to continue to tear down the walls of pride that so easily get us distracted and off course with our relationship with God.  Letting go of control, judgement, haste, and a sense of pride we can grow closer to God and become His true servants.


  • Join a small group for study and fellowship.
  • Study and memorize our Breath Freshener for this week: Proverbs 17:19
  • Identify where you can obey God more and become a true servant for Him.
  • Read Week 5 in your workbook
  • Visit the Conversation Peace website for more resources
  • Register for the Believing God Beth Moore study (starts Aug. 10) OR
  • Register for the Kay Arthur inductive study (starts Aug. 10)

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS FOR THE WEEK: (You can answer in your small group or post a comment here on the website if you do not have a Facebook account)

  1. Mary Kassian describes the “high gate of battle” as when we enter conversations with our swords drawn. Even if we do not strike, we assume a posture to defend or to attack. Why do you think you enter certain conversations ready to battle? (page 99-100)
  2. On a scale of 1 to 5 (with 1 being easy and 5 being very difficult) where do you fall when you approach conversations with others? Are you above correction or willing to be corrected? (page 113)
  3. Mary Kassian lists 3 areas where we fail when being hasty in our conversations: 1) failure to restrain assumptions, 2) failure to restrain words, and 3) failure to restrain anger Which area do you most often show? What do you think would happen if you made it a habit of pausing and thinking before you react?(page 116)
  4. How would you define the Christian concept of servanthood?  If you adopted Christ’s servant heart, how would this impact your relationships with others? (page 120)

I am posting this activity for you to do during the week on your own time:

PERSONAL REFLECTION: Let’s revisit scripture memorization.  Are you memorizing our Breath Freshener scriptures each week? If so, how has memorizing the scriptures help you during the week?

Be Blessed,

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